I am going to give Shani a ride to a place near downtown today at 4:30 pm, and I am very nervous. I didn't do anything since morning, and I still can't focus on my work. I may talk to her tonight, but I don't know what is going to happen. Seeing her with that Indian boy, not answering my requests for talking to her, being weird in asking me to give her a ride after all these really made me confused about what to do regarding her.
In one hand, I like to be with her because I feel comfortable with her. On the other hand, I don't like her selfishness. In addition, she was not grateful to me, and she condemn me for absolutely no valid reason. I asked her several times to talk to me, and she never replied to my requests. In addition, I don't want to be in a relationship with a girl who doesn't care about the person who is going to sleep with (I mean that Indian boy).
I may ask her to to go on a date tonight, and she may accept, and we may spend the night together. Or she may have a serious reaction. I feel that she is prepared to do something very unexpected to me. I am very scared about tonight. I say this because her texting style was completely different in these a few days.
This is scenario 1:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: Yes. I am. Why?
Me: Just asking.
This is scenario 2:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: Why are you asking?
Me: I would like to know.
Shani: It's none of your business.
Me: OK.
This is scenario 3:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: I knew it. You are such a rude stupid boy. What do you think about me? Do you think I am a prostitute?
Me: NOOOO.
Shani: Go away. I hate you for the rest of my life.
This is scenario 4:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: It is related to my privacy. What is in your mind?
Me: I know. I wanted to ask you for a date.
Shani: I hate you. What do you think?
Me: OK :(
This is scenario 5:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: No, and I don't want to be (specially with you)
Me: OK.
This is scenario 6:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: (Finally! I gonna kill you now.) No. Why?
Me: I am going to ask you for a date.
Shani: Go away (very bad word censored). I trusted you, and you looked at me like a [very bad word again]. Who are you? (Crying)
...
This is scenario 7:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: I would rather not to answer this question. You are not allowed to investigate my life.
Me: But it is important to me.
Shani: Why?
Me: It is because I would like to ask you out.
Shani: I am not interested in you at all. You are just a friend. In other words, You were a friend. What do you think? You very kind to me to ...
Me: OK. Sorry.
This is scenario 8:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: No. I am not. [silence]
Me: Don't you mind if I ask you out for a date?
Shani: Do you like me?
Me: Yes.
Shani: OK. Let's talk.
This is scenario 9:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: No. I am not. Are you?
Me: No. Would you like to be my date tonight?
Shani: No problem.
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There are three categories:
1- She gets angry and starts a rude conversation.
2- She expects this and she politely rejects.
3- She expects this and accept..
Consequences:
1-A- She stops being a friend. Lots of tension.
2-A- She stops being a friend.
2-B- She continues friendship, but she wants me not to ask her again.
3-A- She hates me and is looking for a revenge. She makes the worse night.
3-B- She is not sure about the date, and she rejects me on a date because we are not good together.
3-C- She likes it and she takes one step (or more) forward.
3-D- She likes it, but we can't go anything further because there is no agreement between us.
After this analysis, I think that I should talk to her about her relationship tonight. It hurts if she goes through the first category or 3-A, and it may even stop our friendship forever, but I think that there is no other way. The chances of me being with her after tonight is less than 5%. I know that this chance isn't worse the hurt it may cause (that has 40% probability), but nobody knows.
My final decision is to talk to her. She can't be my girlfriend unless she shows me something different about herself. I would like to have a faithful person (or at least an English speaker) as a girlfriend. I would like to date Luna or Ann who had many boyfriends, but they were serious about them, but not a girl who doesn't care about the person who is in the relationship with her. This is the most important thing that I should know about Shani tonight.
In one hand, I like to be with her because I feel comfortable with her. On the other hand, I don't like her selfishness. In addition, she was not grateful to me, and she condemn me for absolutely no valid reason. I asked her several times to talk to me, and she never replied to my requests. In addition, I don't want to be in a relationship with a girl who doesn't care about the person who is going to sleep with (I mean that Indian boy).
I may ask her to to go on a date tonight, and she may accept, and we may spend the night together. Or she may have a serious reaction. I feel that she is prepared to do something very unexpected to me. I am very scared about tonight. I say this because her texting style was completely different in these a few days.
This is scenario 1:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: Yes. I am. Why?
Me: Just asking.
This is scenario 2:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: Why are you asking?
Me: I would like to know.
Shani: It's none of your business.
Me: OK.
This is scenario 3:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: I knew it. You are such a rude stupid boy. What do you think about me? Do you think I am a prostitute?
Me: NOOOO.
Shani: Go away. I hate you for the rest of my life.
This is scenario 4:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: It is related to my privacy. What is in your mind?
Me: I know. I wanted to ask you for a date.
Shani: I hate you. What do you think?
Me: OK :(
This is scenario 5:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: No, and I don't want to be (specially with you)
Me: OK.
This is scenario 6:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: (Finally! I gonna kill you now.) No. Why?
Me: I am going to ask you for a date.
Shani: Go away (very bad word censored). I trusted you, and you looked at me like a [very bad word again]. Who are you? (Crying)
...
This is scenario 7:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: I would rather not to answer this question. You are not allowed to investigate my life.
Me: But it is important to me.
Shani: Why?
Me: It is because I would like to ask you out.
Shani: I am not interested in you at all. You are just a friend. In other words, You were a friend. What do you think? You very kind to me to ...
Me: OK. Sorry.
This is scenario 8:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: No. I am not. [silence]
Me: Don't you mind if I ask you out for a date?
Shani: Do you like me?
Me: Yes.
Shani: OK. Let's talk.
This is scenario 9:
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Shani: No. I am not. Are you?
Me: No. Would you like to be my date tonight?
Shani: No problem.
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There are three categories:
1- She gets angry and starts a rude conversation.
2- She expects this and she politely rejects.
3- She expects this and accept..
Consequences:
1-A- She stops being a friend. Lots of tension.
2-A- She stops being a friend.
2-B- She continues friendship, but she wants me not to ask her again.
3-A- She hates me and is looking for a revenge. She makes the worse night.
3-B- She is not sure about the date, and she rejects me on a date because we are not good together.
3-C- She likes it and she takes one step (or more) forward.
3-D- She likes it, but we can't go anything further because there is no agreement between us.
After this analysis, I think that I should talk to her about her relationship tonight. It hurts if she goes through the first category or 3-A, and it may even stop our friendship forever, but I think that there is no other way. The chances of me being with her after tonight is less than 5%. I know that this chance isn't worse the hurt it may cause (that has 40% probability), but nobody knows.
My final decision is to talk to her. She can't be my girlfriend unless she shows me something different about herself. I would like to have a faithful person (or at least an English speaker) as a girlfriend. I would like to date Luna or Ann who had many boyfriends, but they were serious about them, but not a girl who doesn't care about the person who is in the relationship with her. This is the most important thing that I should know about Shani tonight.
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