I had a FB chat with Camellia tonight that made me unfriend her from FB.
Me: "Would you please let me to upload our group pictures in FB?"
She: "No problem. It is better to ask others as well."
Me: (I felt offended, why does she ask me to ask others? Why is she trying to tell me what to do? I would do whatever I would like to do. OK, let's be friendly and playful) But others are not spoiled :) (Sorry, no suitable meaning in English for the word I used.) بقیه اینقدر ناز ندارن
She: "What u mean ?!"
Me: (Oh, my God. Why is she trying to talk to me this way? Are we friends? Let's fix it) "I mean asking to take down pictures. Isn't it obvious?"
She: "Its obvious ... I think u should talk more politely .. Isnt it obvious ???"
Me: (This time, I really felt offended. Does she say that I am impolite? I tried to be friendly. I didn't say anything rude. I think that she thinks I know that she likes me, and she doesn't want to go so fast, but I don't care. But maybe I am doing something wrong. Let's ask.) What do u mean ?!
She: its obvious ... Should i explain ??
Me: (She is confusing. Why doesn't she want to talk about it. If I did something wrong, and she considers me as a friend why doesn't she tell me. What's wrong? It seems that we can't understand each other. Wait a minute. Let's answer her question to see what's her answer) yes please.
She: I dont have time to do that ...
Me: (I can't continue this conversation anymore. She probably has time, but she doesn't want to talk about it. Either she is laying or she is not friendly; we can't talk to each other.)
After a long deliberation (I mean 7 hours), I decided to apologize, and finish our friendship.
Me: This is how I talk. If this causes any resentments to you, please forgive me.
She: No problem.
I really thought about it. I didn't want to take a hasty decision. I unfriended her after several hours of thinking. We probably can't be friends because we can't understand the way we talk. I remembered when I noticed her for the first time in the birthday party of Martin's daughter. Then we talked for more than three hours, and we had some time together. My feeling was that she had some boyfriends before me, and she expects me to act like someone who had many girlfriends.
I remembered Nancy. I uploaded our photos to FB, and she didn't like it. She never said anything rude to me. She never even complained about it. Even my friends and my family members' comments on a photo of me and Nancy made me really embarrassed; there was absolutely nothing between us, but they thought that she was my girlfriend. Nancy never complained about this, but I think that I owe her because of my friend's behavior.
Me: "Would you please let me to upload our group pictures in FB?"
She: "No problem. It is better to ask others as well."
Me: (I felt offended, why does she ask me to ask others? Why is she trying to tell me what to do? I would do whatever I would like to do. OK, let's be friendly and playful) But others are not spoiled :) (Sorry, no suitable meaning in English for the word I used.) بقیه اینقدر ناز ندارن
She: "What u mean ?!"
Me: (Oh, my God. Why is she trying to talk to me this way? Are we friends? Let's fix it) "I mean asking to take down pictures. Isn't it obvious?"
She: "Its obvious ... I think u should talk more politely .. Isnt it obvious ???"
Me: (This time, I really felt offended. Does she say that I am impolite? I tried to be friendly. I didn't say anything rude. I think that she thinks I know that she likes me, and she doesn't want to go so fast, but I don't care. But maybe I am doing something wrong. Let's ask.) What do u mean ?!
She: its obvious ... Should i explain ??
Me: (She is confusing. Why doesn't she want to talk about it. If I did something wrong, and she considers me as a friend why doesn't she tell me. What's wrong? It seems that we can't understand each other. Wait a minute. Let's answer her question to see what's her answer) yes please.
She: I dont have time to do that ...
Me: (I can't continue this conversation anymore. She probably has time, but she doesn't want to talk about it. Either she is laying or she is not friendly; we can't talk to each other.)
After a long deliberation (I mean 7 hours), I decided to apologize, and finish our friendship.
Me: This is how I talk. If this causes any resentments to you, please forgive me.
She: No problem.
I really thought about it. I didn't want to take a hasty decision. I unfriended her after several hours of thinking. We probably can't be friends because we can't understand the way we talk. I remembered when I noticed her for the first time in the birthday party of Martin's daughter. Then we talked for more than three hours, and we had some time together. My feeling was that she had some boyfriends before me, and she expects me to act like someone who had many girlfriends.
I remembered Nancy. I uploaded our photos to FB, and she didn't like it. She never said anything rude to me. She never even complained about it. Even my friends and my family members' comments on a photo of me and Nancy made me really embarrassed; there was absolutely nothing between us, but they thought that she was my girlfriend. Nancy never complained about this, but I think that I owe her because of my friend's behavior.
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