At first, I talked to my Indian friend. He told me that it was unacceptable in their culture. This will panic girls, and no girl or boy does that. I was confused that I saw Natalie in the aisle. I thought that it might be a good idea to talk to her about it. We had a very long conversation. I can't write all of them here, but she really helped me.
Natalie: As a mom, I don't allow my son to have a female roommate. There could be lots of issues. What if she said that I am pregnant, or said that you raped her? or she likes to walk around naked, or have her boyfriend with her all the night? I don't suggest you to do that. I don't tell you not to do that, and you should decide for yourself. Maybe you get a female roommate, and after a month, you come here, and tell me that you had a very good experience. But I think that, it is not a good idea. If you would like to know women better, you don't need to have one in your home. You can make friends, and go out with them. You can start date someone.
She explained many things about dating, and the way people marry here in the US. She told me, people start making friends, and they start to date some of them, and this may lead to a relationship or not. Then, they will start to think that they liked that one better than the others, and think seriously about getting married to that person, and so on. Although it is kind of weird to me, but I understood most of its parts.
She also told me some very private things. She told me that I could wear more casual clothing. She told me that my clothing was very formal, and more jeans and t-shirts looks more fun. She told me to give my number to the girls, and start date some of them, even though I know that I don't want to marry them. She laughed a lot when I said that I didn't want to talk to the girls because I didn't want to marry them! She told me that it was funny.
Then, she suggested me to find someone online in a dating website. She asked me to show my profile to her. I didn't want to do that as it was a very private thing, but I did that. She told me many things about my profile. She told me, many predators are looking in the dating websites, so people can't trust soon. Since I haven't uploaded any picture of myself there, my profile looks like them without a picture. She told me about some words that I had used like "perfectionist". She told me that this word had a negative connotation. Then she showed me the meaning of it in the dictionary. She was right. It was exactly had a different meaning. I am not a perfectionist. She also told me that love in these profiles means sex. I said that love in my culture is something different. It is the highest..., but she interrupted my words and told me that it is not true here. Oh my god, I didn't know that the language and the culture can cause such issues in a simple profile. I understood that even these profiles should be something professional, not personal.
She told me that I was a handsome boy! When I said that I was ordinary, she was opposed to it. She told me that I would have a very bright future that any girl would like to live with have such a man. She also said that dating was like research.
She asked me to:
1- be relaxed
2- Join university clubs and groups
3- start dating and making friends
...
I asked her about Taylor, and she told, "she is very different. I am teaching you how to say hi to a girl, and you are talking about one who is very experienced? I think that she is experienced. She can kiss, or hug without any problem. She is very very far from you. How you can live with her? She wants to go to tours all around the world all the time. How can you have babies with a girl like that? By the way, she is taller than you! Why are you asking me? Are you really serious?" "I am sorry. I just asked it to ask." I answered.
After this conversation, I decided to decline that girl's request. What a pity, it gonna to be a legendary!
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